The absolute rule of the game: Make sure your force's growth is greater than the enemy's: You don't need to fight for and capture every planet: You just need enough to make sure they don't have any to produce ships.
It's the concept of Total Warfare: Go through an area, burn it to the ground, and Make it so the enemy can no longer fight.
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