These 3 actions are among the top of social intercourse behaviors that are of great importance & benefit.
But, how capable are we at doing them…let alone attaining any mastery of them?
And, how universal is a consensus on just what exactly each of them is?
Without a clearly understood parameter in these areas, we can very often (and deeply?) fall victim to: one man’s steak is an other’s hamburger. One person will continue the relationship build on a misinterpretation of the others intent
It is maintenance of a relationship based on any forms of lack of understanding of who/what the other person is. A poor understanding of their capacity to forgive & forget and be truly sorry for hurt caused can severely inflict damage to a relationship…sometimes to the point of destroying it.
I hope we can discuss a wide variety of forms of the three…sometimes considered to be only 2 since “forgive & forget” are viewed as a single action.
But, to establish a point-of-origin…I offer these definitions:
1. To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.
2. To renounce anger or resentment against.
Something we shouldn’t forget about “forgive” is to be able to forgive our self.
a. To banish from one’s thoughts: forget a disgrace.
b. Informal To disregard on purpose. Usually used in the imperative: Oh, forget it. I refuse to go!
1. used for telling someone that you are ashamed or unhappy about something that you have done that has hurt or upset them.
(lesser relationship usage) 2. used in a social situation as a way of asking someone to forgive you for doing something rude, embarrassing etc.
Note: MacMillan offers a wide understanding of the concept of “sorry”….interesting.
The combo of Forgive & forget: to decide not to continue being angry about something that someone has done, and not to allow your memory of it to influence your future relationship.
I fully anticipate great variations of these concepts.
I only offer those that are most familiar to me.