narcissists (locked)

whats their problem?

nar·cis·sism   [nahr-suh-siz-em]
–noun
1.
inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity.
2.
Psychoanalysis . erotic gratification derived from admiration of one’s own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.

What are you asking for, a definition or an explanation?

well i’m starting to think i might be one. i have some symptoms of the disorder

well i’m starting to think i might be one. i have some symptoms of the disorder

You talk about it like as if its a disease.

Originally posted by Reaponight:

well i’m starting to think i might be one. i have some symptoms of the disorder

You talk about it like as if its a disease.

it’s worse than a disease

Originally posted by johnroiberts:

Originally posted by Reaponight:

well i’m starting to think i might be one. i have some symptoms of the disorder

You talk about it like as if its a disease.

it’s worse than a disease

Yes, avoid it like the Black Plague at all costs!!! Just kidding, It’s up to you how you want to live life.

it’s worse than a disease

Though some people may have a problem with people who are narcissistic, it would seem like as if its nothing you can help; judging by the way you describe it. If you really are troubled by yourself being narcissistic, then go for some counseling, and try to find a way out of it.

That’s merely a suggestion, I see nothing wrong with being a narcissist, unless your attitude and regard to yourself being superior ends up being offensive to others.

For examples of narcissism becoming a problem for those around you, you need only take a look at a few of the different members on the forums.
Some of it seems to border on megalomania at times. I think at that point, it is something that should be diagnosed and treated.

Narcissism can be a wonderful advantage; as long as you aren’t vocal about it. Of course, if it leads you to be reckless or rebellious, it could become a problem.

Really now Softest, it’s the internet, of course people have egos. It isn’t anything new.

The only cure for narcissism is a twice-daily dose of dropkicks to the face.

Or solipsism.

Ask yourself these questions lol. From the wiki of course. I will go first.

1.Shamelessness – Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways

Well…ok fine 1/7 isnt that bad. Right?

2. Magical thinking – Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.

Well im far from perfect. Shame others? IDK?

3.Arrogance – A narcissist who is feeling deflated may reinflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.

Everyone makes fun of everyone else,but only JKing…not enough to seriously hurt someone ^^

4.Envy – A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person’s ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.

I don’t envy much. I am who I am and nothing will change that. :)

5. Entitlement – Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.

I don’t get angered easily however I would only get mad if it was important to me. Something small might as well be disreguarded. I’m not special even though we all each have special purposes we each are supposed to do.

6.Exploitation – can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.

Exploit as in make fun of? Only if antaganized beyond my “safety limits”. After that their just being an ass. Sorry.

7.Bad Boundaries – narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist will be treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.

The leader of groups must be “superior” to keep everything in order. So blah certain ones are just with the role. Other people weren’t created to serve me. There are boundarys.

That was just me but idk about everyone else

So, are you saying that all narcissists are religious?

Anyways, all of these things, in small doses, can be entirely beneficial. It’s just when they go completely out of hand, and make someone act in a way that puts them, or others, in danger; that it becomes a problem.

Everyone experiences these attitudes at some points, and it is only when they become severe, that they should be corrected.

No I was just saying that it was a fun thing to do? See if you match up with any of that. Man you wanna nail religion on me for everything I do dont you?! (if that religion question was to me. i dont even know how that is related to this) I am completely talking about this dominate feeling/action.

idk i realized i had it when i started thinking that i lost a few friends and a lot of gf’s cuz i was being a jerk. i can say i’m very intelligent,they say a lot of narcissists are. it’s not fun to be narcissistic,cuz i always have to be the best i can. like working out everyday is an example of that. if i dont i feel somewhat guilty or something.

For every 100 Narcissists, you get 1 guy or gal who can truly back up what they talk. These people deserve to brag.

But thinking that you may be one means you do not think about yourself as beeing perfect which reduces the chance you are one.

Originally posted by thijser:

But thinking that you may be one means you do not think about yourself as beeing perfect which reduces the chance you are one.

One can be a narcissist without knowing it.

Originally posted by 2032:

Originally posted by thijser:

But thinking that you may be one means you do not think about yourself as beeing perfect which reduces the chance you are one.

One can be a narcissist without knowing it.

It’s more likely that you know it then that you don’t know it. It’s usually considered a flaw and someone who thinks they are all so great isn’t very likely to think he is also flawed.

Originally posted by johnroiberts:

idk i realized i had it when i started thinking that i lost a few friends and a lot of gf’s cuz i was being a jerk. i can say i’m very intelligent,they say a lot of narcissists are. it’s not fun to be narcissistic,cuz i always have to be the best i can. like working out everyday is an example of that. if i dont i feel somewhat guilty or something.

That doesn’t sound all that narcissistic. If you really feel this bad about it, you should go to counseling, and get a professional to help you with it. If that isn’t an option, try talking to your parents.

Originally posted by johnroiberts:

idk i realized i had it when i started thinking that i lost a few friends and a lot of gf’s cuz i was being a jerk. i can say i’m very intelligent,they say a lot of narcissists are. it’s not fun to be narcissistic,cuz i always have to be the best i can. like working out everyday is an example of that. if i dont i feel somewhat guilty or something.

Perhaps they are just envious (or other undetected conflicts)… When you ask for suggestions with such straightfowardness, I guarantee you are not narcissist. Maybe a competitive perfectionist….
Gfs’ will run away from narcissists. Friends come and go, its just that you mature better than them.
And you are not as intelligent as you may wanna think…. (giggles)

Narcissists? I’m far too busy staring at my reflection to pay them any attention.

Originally posted by Speaksforthedead:

Originally posted by johnroiberts:

idk i realized i had it when i started thinking that i lost a few friends and a lot of gf’s cuz i was being a jerk. i can say i’m very intelligent,they say a lot of narcissists are. it’s not fun to be narcissistic,cuz i always have to be the best i can. like working out everyday is an example of that. if i dont i feel somewhat guilty or something.

That doesn’t sound all that narcissistic. If you really feel this bad about it, you should go to counseling, and get a professional to help you with it. If that isn’t an option, try talking to your parents.

i’m pretty secretive about my problems. the internet can grant anonymity,which is why i talk about it. i’m not the kinda of guy or age age bracket where talking to parents is applicable.

Originally posted by Aneslayer:

Originally posted by johnroiberts:

idk i realized i had it when i started thinking that i lost a few friends and a lot of gf’s cuz i was being a jerk. i can say i’m very intelligent,they say a lot of narcissists are. it’s not fun to be narcissistic,cuz i always have to be the best i can. like working out everyday is an example of that. if i dont i feel somewhat guilty or something.

Perhaps they are just envious (or other undetected conflicts)… When you ask for suggestions with such straightfowardness, I guarantee you are not narcissist. Maybe a competitive perfectionist….
Gfs’ will run away from narcissists. Friends come and go, its just that you mature better than them.
And you are not as intelligent as you may wanna think…. (giggles)

actually i’m pretty intelligent for my age. not really book smart though. yes there was a lot of times [mostly males causing the problems] i was on the receiving end of a lot of bs situations. thats why i dropped out of hs. i got my GED the first try at 18.

Originally posted by thijser:

Originally posted by 2032:

Originally posted by thijser:

But thinking that you may be one means you do not think about yourself as beeing perfect which reduces the chance you are one.

One can be a narcissist without knowing it.

It’s more likely that you know it then that you don’t know it. It’s usually considered a flaw and someone who thinks they are all so great isn’t very likely to think he is also flawed.

i dont consider it a flaw. the most basic thing i can say is one man’s trash is anothers treasure. i dont relate well to regular people. the oddest thing is i can sometimes think i’m the greatest or the worst,depending on how i misconstrue things

Oh, I just assumed this thread was about moi.