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Topic: Serious Discussion / Is my being a white, cisgender, heterosexual male a bad thing?

Nope, I was merely saying that to establish credibility as someone whom has friends from many different races. Not trying to prove that I am not racist, because that is not the issue of debate.

It is much easier for communication purposes to say “that tall white guy at my work” or “that tall arabic guy at my work” or “that tall black guy at my work,” etc. to help people understand what you are talking about. I don’t understand the sensitivity… “oh no he called me Arabic/white/black, the horror!” Embrace your skin color, it’s simply the outer shell, the true beauty and worth lies beneath.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Is my being a white, cisgender, heterosexual male a bad thing?

@dd790:

No you don’t, haven’t you been listening? White people and black people cannot be friends because whites simply cannot comprehend what it means to be black, same way heterosexual people and homosexual people cannot get along because they are so different. There are huge differences between races and sexualities and you are being a racist/sexist by trying to befriend them and pretend to understand them.

I have gay, black, Asian, Arabic, Christian, Muslim and atheist friends, and even an openly transgender friend. I acknowledge that I have no access to their personal experiences; therefore I can never fully understand them. But, you do not need to fully understand someone in order to be their friend; my friends and I are all part of the same county, university, and country culture and therefore we have enough in common to be legitimate friends. While I agree it is wrong to feign the desire for friendship with a black person simply because that person is black, can’t we just view people as people? That’s what I do, and it works for me!

Additionally, an attempt to understand another culture is not racist; it’s productive. To get into the minds and critical junctures in one’s life is to approach a better understanding of them. The reason we Americans/English/etc. are different from most say, Polish people, is that we have not gone through the same critical life/cultural events that they have. Where we tend to be more colloquial on the streets, smiling and saying how are you to attractive passer-bys, in Poland in the South, one would be the odd one out if they did that — the corrupt communism of the USSR, and before that, the Nazi occupation of Poland contributed to a higher need for a sense of security (ie by not looking at others on the streets) until it became the cultural norm. At least, that is one attempt to understand a cultural difference. It makes sense, no?

Although what I have written is not the full story, it exists to illustrate how one can understand another culture through using empathy — putting oneself in the position that people of other cultures had to go through to survive. So no, not a full understanding, but an attempt, which helps resolve tension and is enough for a friendship, at least in my humble opinion. :)

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Political correctness: how far is too far????

An actual example may be derived from my work place… I worked as an Orientation Leader this summer at my university. We were required to go through “diversity training” in order to be qualified to work our job. I believe in equality for all, and against stereotyping different races (everyone is an individual, although there are tendencies).
A microaggression is committed when one says something offensive under the guise of it being an innocent or simple comment like:

Example set 1) “Gay people are so fun (implying that gay people can all be grouped together, are all the same)” or “she (an assertive woman) is a bitch (implying that she is a woman and should be passive)”

In this presentation, the two presenters made repeated comments that “whites usually commit these microaggressions against people of other races, including blacks” and general blanket statements of the sort were made which were actually microaggressions themselves, and I, being someone born into white skin, do not deserve to be treated like the bad guy for something I did not do. So some of the arguments were hypocritical, but the idea expressed of watching out for some of the microaggressions was a good one, especially in the example set 1 above, however sometimes it can be taken too far in terms of political correctness. There were some statements like:

Example set 2) “I believe the most qualified person should get the job,” “where are you from,” and “in your culture…”

…that were considered microaggressions.

These seem to be political correctness “rules” that are nothing more than barriers to communication and that contrast from those in example set 1. Of course, there are situations in which these statements may seem bold and rude, and those are to be avoided such as “(sees Indian skin-toned person, without introducing self) what other country are you from??” which is rude, but given an introduction, a friendship, or being on that topic, it is not rude to ask someone of a darker skin tone what nationality they are, or what nationality their name is, and then to talk about said culture. At least it is not in my mind, especially if done for a pure, innocent, and educational purpose. Learning about another culture and their language, customs, etc. is one of my favorite things (I am a Psychology and Spanish K-12 education double-major at my university) and actually understanding other cultures prevents conflicts and miscommunications: for example the “deuces” sign in America is considered a fairly common gesture/pose, whereas in Britain it is equivalent to the American middle finger. Understanding this cultural difference removes the tension experienced by viewing a Facebook photo of your American counterparts and finding them disrespectful — simple example, but it applies across more serious cultural rifts. For instance, I recently experienced the misunderstanding in which people were associating fundamental and extremist Islam for the beliefs of all of the Muslim population: people were cheering on a store owner who refused to sell their products to American Muslims because of their religion and its unjust association with violence; an understanding of the American Muslim culture would have prevented these views and actual macro aggressions (i.e., racism).

In summary, cultural misunderstandings can cause tensions logical/educational conversation can fix if both parties are willing to learn, such as in my second set of examples of “microaggressions” above. Setting up the inquiry of how someone’s culture works as politically incorrect and then discouraging conversations about culture, gender, etc. is a barrier to communication and ironically concludes with misunderstanding, bigotry, and thus macro aggressions.

TL;DR Political correctness can be a barrier to communication, causing more bigotry to result, when actually the desired result was removing this bigotry.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Any possible fix for sadness?

@Ubermorgen:

Although logically your argument makes perfect sense, the context in which you used your argument was morally incorrect. It is wrong to encourage someone to kill themself, especially when they are at a low point (although this is probably a troll thread). I am all for dark humor, but suicide is just one of those things that a lot of people have thought of as a viable method, and hence it probably isn’t a good idea to joke about it in random conversation if your goal isn’t to make others feel crappy. If it is your goal, well good job.

At least, that’s what I think Dudewithpants is trying to say.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / sex

@Tissue:

And that’s where better sexual education comes in!

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Ten questions evolutionists can't answer

Originally posted by Ubermorgen:

I agree with Cwovictor. If a majority believes in something, how can you say it’s false? We shouldn’t be letting an elitist minority decide what’s true for us.

What if the “elitist minority” is better informed?

To put it into perspective: the majority of people in the United States at one time thought that slavery was morally acceptable. Were they right?

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Favourite ice cream flavour?

Mint Chocolate Chip!!

 
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Topic: Off-topic / A mindblowing question for abortion supporters

Uber,

Artificially selecting something (such as a “superior” genetic race) does not necessarily mean that one subscribes to the tenants of the theory of evolution.

However, at the others:

Just because Uber said that Hitler was an evolutionist, does not mean that Uber said that Hitler was an atheist. The two are not mutually interchangeable terms.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Ten questions evolutionists can't answer

@Cwovictor:

Just keep in mind that about 90% of the world belives in God, so the Big Bang and etc is not universal truth, and neither you should think it is. You’re free to belive what you want, just don’t go attacking people.

It’s not 90%!

Also, it’s definitely universally evident… The scientific evidence (the scientific method being the best method we have of obtaining near-objective truths) points towards there having been a Big Bang several billion years in the past.

Hope this helps!

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Minimum Definition of God

Vika, how would you define “order of magnitude”? I am having difficulty understanding your definition.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Is it good that we are unique?

If we all spoke the same language, read the same books, liked the same things, etc. we would all think in a similar way, and would have a very difficult time combining our minds to solve problems. Someone above stated that we’d be like the superior Borg, but most likely we would be a less-flattering, more primitive version. The more diverse we are, the more we argue, but the more that intelligent minds are able to solve life’s problems.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / A mindblowing question for abortion supporters

Originally posted by Ubermorgen:

SD is full of boring uptight wannabe intellectuals.

Agreed. I want to debate but I am sexually frustrated from SD; most/enough there are so uptight and critical! It used to be so much better, where you could make a new thread and not have everyone complaining that “Oh, check pg 234 of the forums there’s already a thread for that, muted, reported.”

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Ten questions evolutionists can't answer

Frosty, why you gotta be so ruuuude?

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Gonna blow your mind.

@OP:

It is known that there are an infinite number of worlds, simply because there is an infinite amount of space for them to be in.

Is it known? Is it infinite space, or just really, really big space? Your argument depends on this basal assumption, the general agreement among scientists today is a continued, but finite expansion of the universe.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / wow americas new flag

Laughed my ass off upon seeing that flag, haha.

On a side note, I found Canada’s too

 
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Topic: Off-topic / If you could kill any corrupt politician, who would it be?

Vladmir Putin. I’m part Ukrainian so that thought is valid right?

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Who is the weirdest person you've ever met?

Being normal is so uninteresting and overrated; the people who are “normal” happen to be the odd ones out! Everyone is weird and unique, but not everyone shows it. We call the ones who decide not to follow cultural norms “weird” but if you take a step back, cultural norms are inherently weird themselves. Me? I’m most happy as a polyamorous individual who loves having conversations in Spanish and gaming/doing intelligent things all day, while in the meantime being a former college athlete who can currently run 14+ miles fast and without a problem. I also like talking about feelings and emotions with other people (mostly women) as a heterosexual male, which at least in my subculture, is surprising for a heterosexual male to exhibit.

To put it in perspective, I’m abnormal, and I love it! You should not be afraid to be weird too :D .

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Ten questions evolutionists can't answer

Your name is similar to hugs in Spanish; I think you could use one :)

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Has anyone ever actually gone through with the porn ads such as, "Meet local singles today!"

Yes, but we all want a big dick like ron!

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Has anyone ever actually gone through with the porn ads such as, "Meet local singles today!"

I think the ads are geared towards what we want

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Boo boos :(

Nail in the foot, concussion, muscle strain, and scoliosis! Not all at once though, thank Confucius.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Has anyone ever actually gone through with the porn ads such as, "Meet local singles today!"

I just see the “get a big dick like Ron!” ads really

 
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Topic: Off-topic / What is the ugliest color?

Green is not a creative color.

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Compliments <3

Is very nice and friendly even when debated on SD! :D thank you!!

 
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Topic: Off-topic / Ten questions evolutionists can't answer

Immortal, yes! Although the common ancestor is technically classified as a monkey, it did not fully resemble the monkeys that are alive today.

In other news though guys I’ve solved the debate once and for all and found the missing link

Consider this a hijahhhh! to the competition