Recent posts by ParaNoir on Kongregate

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Topic: Serious Discussion / About "Bioshock Infinite" and the real life

Have you considered that women like Elizabeth don’t desire you because you treat women like objects to be “gained”? Elizabeth is incredibly intelligent and it’s pretty depressing that despite her being well read, brave, skilled in many areas and very, very strong, you are all still obsessed with how “good looking” she is. Perhaps it’s your attitude towards women and not their “standards” that is causing your “problem”?

“Not getting what you want,” “what can be gained…” women do not have to be “good looking” to find this attitude repulsive.

P.S. It’s remarkable that Elizabeth has been treated like an object and controlled for her entire life and you’ve seen the effect this has had on her, and experienced her joy at freedom, yet still wish to manipulate and “control” social situations and in order to “gain” women.

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Kongregate Haiku?

Kongregate needs a
Poetic revolution
Start writing, comrades

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Foreign Moderators

Originally posted by DarkRainyKnight:
Originally posted by ParaNoir:

Korean mods are here. Sadly only two! :(

Neither MrRubix nor gow are Mods anymore.

Oh! Thanks Dark. Sorry Jkoi, looks like there are no Korean mods! I hope the admin take your emails into consideration. :)

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Foreign Moderators

Hi Jkoi!

The small amount of foreign moderators is probably down to the fact that current moderators nominate potential moderators. As most current moderators are English speaking and therefore are most likely to spend time in English speaking rooms, I would assume that this makes it much less likely for non-English speaking members to be nominated. There are however, a few foreign-language mods around Kong. This masterpost links to accounts where you can find mods that speak different languages – Korean mods are here. Sadly only two! :(

I don’t think that Kong admin have less appreciation for the rooms, I just think it’s a much slower process down to Kongregate being primarily English-speaking. To speed this process, moderators who are bilingual could spend more time in the rooms of their second language in order to get to know the regulars, and potentially nominate more non-English speaking mods.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Feminism and Sexual Equality

Murder_Machine:

Have you ever considered that there are more women’s shelters than men’s because men are expected to be dominant and strong? Or that courts favour mothers in custody cases because women are expected to be caregivers? Many of the issues that men face are the effects of the rigid gender roles that come with patriarchy. Men are expected to be strong and non-expressive of emotion, while women are weaker and care for children. Patriarchy doesn’t just harm women – gender roles are harmful to many people. Many feminists understand that gender roles/expectations underpin sexism towards women and the inequality that some men face.

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Aiglet1 Memorial

Very saddening news. Aiglet was always so friendly and kind. :(

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Girlfriend Mode: The Controversy, and the Concept

^no, it says girlfriends, not girls. most gamers’ girlfriends AREN’T able to handle a hc game comfortably without it being dumbed down.

Charming. :) I’ll have you know I “handle” such games just as well as my boyfriend, often even better.

I think the “girlfriend” comment was incredibly dim considering the problems of sexism in the gaming industry (way to totally work with the problem…). If he had spent a split second more on thinking, this situation have been prevented. The idea of a more casual mode? Awesome! That’s great. Gendering it for dumb girlfriends who can’t “handle” games? No thanks. Call it “casual mode.”

It’s a FACT (not a stereotype) that there are FAR more male gamers than female gamers,

Writing FACT in CAPITAL LETTERS does not make something true. It’s reaching 50/50 now. It’s a stereotype that gaming is male dominated. Gaming is, however, gendered towards men (mostly) – so you have the impression that it is male dominated. I would like to see the industry realise this and become more inclusive. It’s a distant dream, but you never know. :)

Edit: I realise that Norumaru has made an excellent post articulating all of my feelings and thoughts better than I have. :)

 
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Topic: Kongregate / New Kongregate Version: Liking and commenting feed items

“Socializing?” Liking something isn’t socializing. Talking to each other and building up little communities within rooms and forums is socializing. This requires users and a website they enjoy to use. These changes towards “socializing” are simply driving users away. And anyway, I prefer to socialize with “Friends,” and we aren’t allowed those on Kongregate anymore.>:c

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Hey Kongregate, I gots an idea!

Surprised Kongregate haven’t beaten you to it, Happy!

 
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Topic: Kongregate / New Split Test: Activity feeds *we're back!*

Eeek. The Activity Feed doesn’t look great and serves no huge purpose. To users with a lot of friends, it’s just a big busy mess. Please consider making it optional – or have an empty activity feed to start with so that users can select which friends they’d like to receive updates from.

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Games encouraging message spam

Wow dubesor, and I thought my inbox was bad!

 
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Topic: Kongregate / Games encouraging message spam

Things I don’t care about: fighting you in Survival of the Fittest!

It’s really annoying when I visit to respond to a private message and it’s just spam. I don’t want to have to block people.

Kongregate: I’ve already stopped a lot of my activity here… do you want me to stop ALL of it? Seriously?

This ^

Amongst others, I’m already well aware that Kongregate have placed money over community, so the promotion of spam wasn’t unexpected. Still slightly disappointing though.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Please Delete

Originally posted by darkmikasonfire:

To go through this rather quickly:
“Not having a neutral option doesn’t allow neutral people to truly reflect their opinions.” <- If we gave a neutral almost EVERYONE would pick that most of the time, so they wouldn’t seem sexist, removing this takes that ability away. Also everyone has an opinion, even if it’s not a strong one, which leads it to not being neutral. However because it’s a weak opinion they’ll click neutral which is again, not true.

Yes, everybody does have an opinion – but some people’s opinions are neutral – not out of laziness or weaker opinions either way, but because their honest, genuine view is neutral. I believe that’s what 21CG was getting at. I appreciate that doing it this way gets rid of people who will just pick “neutral” for convenience, but you’ve also cut out the true opinions of people who truly would answer neutral. That’s why I haven’t taken the survey – few answers reflect my true opinions, so what’s the point?

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

“According to her own wishes,” Jhco.

Pressuring somebody – “nagging” – to decide either way is not pro-choice. That is anti-choice.

@Tenco, sarcasm well observed – I don’t see wanting to help people come to a decision they’re comfortable with, having informed them of all aspects of each option, as “pushing a bias.” Pressuring either way is directive counselling (something I view to be abusive).

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

I have heard the horror stories of self-mutilation myself and they were just stories.

Okay then.

Originally posted by jhco50:

I’m glad I could help with your decisions. Let’s hope you become an honest counseler and not just push your own biases.

I’m very much intending to push my own bias of helping a pregnant woman to decide what is best for her according to her own wishes and individual circumstance. Sorry about that!

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Jhco, you speak as if abortion is an entirely new thing to this generation (we’ve established that it isn’t) and it’s up to people from your generation to educate younger people – making Karma out to be almost evil because he fails to do so. People from your generation shared the same pro-choice views as people today. Your morals are your personal morals, they do not automatically apply to everybody else, be it from your generation or not.

What did we do before abortion was becoming normalized in your world?

Had abortions.

In all of my research into abortion and reproductive health, you are one of, if not the biggest factor pushing me into pursuing work in abortion counselling.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Why not, ShellShock?

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Please Delete

Ah – that’s very understandable and well thought out. It makes a lot more sense now you’ve explained it. :)

Unfortunately for me, I’m very interested and passionate about gender equality: the “neutral” would be my genuine opinion. I guess I’ll skip the survey. I’d be interested to see the overall results of your studies once complete.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Please Delete

I’m going to private message you my answers, but I feel like the options are a bit limiting. For example, I feel that if somebody is nearly at the door and you’ve just gone through it, you should hold it open for them (regardless of gender etc). If I agree with statement 3 it sounds like men should always hold open doors for women, if I disagree it sounds like they never should. What should I put? Maybe this is a strange issue but I have a thing about holding doors open. Politeness is nice. :c

Similarly for something like “men make better CEOs,” I don’t believe this to be true but if I disagree it implies that women make better CEOs, which I also disagree with.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Originally posted by jhco50:
Originally posted by onlineidiot1994:
Instead of using contraceptives, which is accepted by society, she would just as soon kill the life she created.

I’d like to point out that very few people get pregnant for the sole purpose of getting an abortion. It costs between 50 and 200 dollars to get a pap smear, which is what an abortion involves. So the only logical reasoning behind it would be “woops”, rape, or failed contraception.

A PAP smear has nothing to do with abortion. It is a procedure used to look for several different medical problems such as cancer. This test has been around long before abortions.

Abortion has been around long before (thousands of years before) cervical smear tests.

These tests are sometimes required before abortion – depending on the patient.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

When “the consequences of her actions” are 9 months of unwanted pregnancy and forced birth, it sounds a lot like punishment.

She wishes to indulge in unorthodox behavior,

She doesn’t comply with your morals…

without fear of the consequences for her actions.

“Fear” clearly implies that the consequence is viewed as a punishment for her actions.

Originally posted by jhco50:

But if the woman chooses abortion over these other forms of birth control…well let’s be honest, she isn’t much of a human being, is she?

Glad to see you openly admitting you value foetuses above women. Honesty is the best policy.

There are not that many legitimate reasons for abortion with so many contraception choices.

In your opinion. I think that having an unwanted pregnancy and wanting an abortion is a legitimate reason for abortion, regardless of how the pregnancy occurred.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

That leaves 97% of abortions used for abusive reasons, reasons of self-indulgence.

It really is all about punishing the woman above “protecting” the fetus for you, isn’t it?

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Originally posted by Spire99:

The decision of killing the child isn’t the mother’s decision since it interferes with the baby’s right to live.

There are no babies involved in abortion. Killing babies is illegal, and against their rights. Fetuses don’t have rights as they are not, by law, people.

And if you say that the fetus can’t decide for itself whether it wants to live, then would that make killing a retarded person all right? No.

The person you’re talking about isn’t living inside somebody’s body for 9 months against their will.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Originally posted by jhco50:

I assume you are young and haven’t had yet, so I can overlook your liberal leanings. That may change in time when you get a little life experience under your belt. Because of your lack of real experiences and your depending on the internet for everything, you tend to think these sites that support abortion are being honest with the subject. Keep in mind they are biased.

This again… may I ask every male on the forum: would it be acceptable if I responded to each of your posts with “well, you don’t have a uterus?” I don’t believe it would be. If anything, my possession of a uterus/ovaries and your lack is far more relevant to this debate than age. If I used that as a response to posts, however, it would look as though I had no real argument (and indeed, it doesn’t further any argument just like age doesn’t add or detract anything from yours or mine).

Plenty of much older people share the exact same views as me. It has nothing to do with age. Also, “lack of real experiences?” What an assumption!

I know all about postpartum psychosis, having children of my own, and and experiencing my wife’s problems.

You said “having a child doesn’t cause mental problems.”

However, it differs with every woman.

Obviously.

However, you cannot sit there and tell me that a women has absolutely no problems with having a child terminated. When a woman becomes pregnant, her body changes, her hormones change, etc. Killing her fetus will take a toll on her.

Well, it’s nice that you think that, but I actually have a uterus and understand these things more (actually I just research a lot into this topic and know that early abortions have little effect on the body and are not much more than a heavier-than-normal period. I won’t bother linking to any medical sites though, as apparently they are useless to you).

I was thinking teenager and I guess that could include you. However, you don’t sound like some of them I see. I could be assuming too much though…am I? How do I know mommy and daddy are providing everything? Roof over their heads, electricity, food, cloths, schooling, etc. Yeah, mommy and daddy to the rescue. Lord have mercy when they get 18. :)

So many assumptions.

Unrelated, but I wanted to add a Brit perspective:

Are you telling me that a person can’t get a job in a fast food restaurant? Most young people get their first jobs there.

Sadly, this isn’t the reality for the majority of areas in England, at least. Due to the low amount of graduate employment, young people seeking their first jobs in places such as fast food restaurants are often up against those who have degrees.

 
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Topic: Serious Discussion / Abortion

Originally posted by jhco50:

Having a child doesn’t cause mental problems, but abortion does. This is just my opinion.

So why are you stating it as fact?

Just because you think it might cause mental health problems (it doesn’t, see the The National Collaborating Centre for Mental Health’s release), does not mean that it does.

Unwanted pregnancy however, does increase the risk of mental health issues. This risk level is the same whether the pregnant women gives birth or has an abortion (I’m just summing the PDF up for you, it’s pretty long). Women with a history of mental health problems are more likely to suffer from issues after an abortion (due to unwanted pregnancy). It was also concluded that the risk of mental health issues following an abortion/unwanted pregnancy was higher if the pregnant woman was pressurised into having an abortion or had negative attitudes towards abortion.

And now it’s time for my opinion: what is evident from this collaboration of surveys is that unwanted pregnancy is bad for women’s health. I feel that comprehensive sexual education and free, widely accessible contraception is a good first step towards combating this. It’s obvious that if a woman is pressurised into having abortion, she will experience some trauma. We need to make sure that women are making these decisions themselves – pre-abortion counselling needs to be of a higher standard. But with all things, prevention is key. No unwanted pregnancy = no extra risk of mental health issues.

Also, how can you say that having a child doesn’t cause mental health problems? Postnatal depression? Postpartum psychosis? Not relevant to the abortion discussion, but it’s still quite extreme to overlook the fact that many women do suffer from mental illness after childbirth.

Edit: a short summary of the document and another more detailed summary with responses from SPUC.